It really gets to me when I see a guy that's so money that he doesn't even know it. All the right stuff to get ahead but he just doesn't know how to take charge. Well I've got a couple of pointers for every guy to sound like the president and look good doing it.
First things first, you've got to practice your speaking. Be it public speaking or chatting it up with the boys you need to have a set standard for how you speak and want to be perceived doing so. So high tail it in front of that bathroom mirror and get to practicing. The great JFK has been quoted as being terrified of speaking in front of people. Plus there will never be a harsher critic than you. You know what works for you and what doesn't.
Next, you should practice eye contact and no I don't mean go up to strangers and get your serial killer glare on, I mean legitimately ask a friend or someone you are comfortable with to help you work on eye contact. Nothing says I bathe with charisma No. 47 like a man that can look you in the eye. It also shows you've got nothing to hide and you take pride in your word. Now if you can't get the nerve do this with just about everyone there are a couple of tricks you can do.
The very best can give the impression of complete eye contact but in actuality they are more so looking past their partners. I even do it. If you find someone that just makes your knees buckle and leaves your tongue tied just imagine them in a humorous situation or pretend that you are looking into the back of their head. It makes you smile and gives you that ever sought after piercing eye effect.
Moving right along, you have to smile. You have to smirk. You have to do anything but be married with the monotint slate of a blank face. Why would anyone want to pay attention to a dull face, I know I wouldn't. I like to smile and I like to see a smile. Now you don't have to get elaborate just keep it simple to gain interest. With the attention spans of our population lowering by the second the last thing you want to do is not be interesting.
Finally keep facial accessories to a minimum. Chewing gum is not a fashion statement. Smacking on gum is not a fashion statement. Chewing gum to fight anxiety is understandable but should be done discreetly. There is nothing cool about continuously mulling over a piece of rubber in your mouth. If anything it's reminiscent of cattle grazing. A tooth pick is not a fashion statement. Walking around like Mr. Bad Guy with a tooth pick in your mouth does not increase your sex appeal. And it definitely doesn't help you talk. It's more like a deterrent. I don't know what it was that sparked the oral fixations of our male population but the last thing you want to do is use a hygiene tool to make yourself look better.
All you need to be confident, or at least look like your confident, is to take care of yourself and commit yourself to taking care of how you are perceived. Keep track of the little things. Make sure you are aware of what works and what fails. Eighty percent of the problem is in 20 percent of the solution. Keep it simple and avoid those problems all together.
